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What does it cost you to claim credit for something you have achieved? Nothing at all, and it can actually open up opportunities. However, many of us are afraid to take credit for our successes as it feels uncomfortable. We may feel we will be seen as bragging or tooting our own horn.
These feelings can be related to our feelings of self-worth, but other aspects can have an effect, too. How we were raised and the expectations put on us in our formative years can significantly influence our relationship with âgoing public.â Many families, societies, and cultures express disapproval with outward expression that is considered healthy or even admirable in others.
Self-Promotion aka Humble Bragging: “It’s a Thing”
A person who is good at self-promotion enjoys taking credit for his or her valid accomplishments. Self-promotion is an art and requires understanding the difference between it and bragging. It is an effective leadership skill and can be learned, which is great news for those who are not comfortable with it. It is a skill that can be greatly improved with practice and application. Self-promotion is not showing off. Speaking up about accomplishments made and contributions you can deliver does not mean you are egocentric or self-absorbing. Â The key is to remain authentic and modest about your approach.
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Symptoms of Poor Self-Promotion
Is this you? You work hard, you go the extra mile and deliver beyond others’ expectations. However, you do not take credit for your success. Instead, you allow others (especially with seniority or longer tenure at work) to be recognized.
You do not use âIâ but âwe.â You share the credit for your diligent effort among your peers, groups, teams, and other people, which does not necessarily help you, particularly when it comes to your career. This makes you feel good at the time, but you may regret doing so later and wish you had been able to confidently claim the achievement as your own.Â
You tell yourself that great work sells itself, so there is no need to show off your outstanding performance. You hope that the right people will notice your achievements. After all, it was you who did all the hard work.
When someone compliments you for your achievements, you feel that you are just lucky and thank God for making it happen rather than thanking yourself for your efforts and skills
Promote Yourself The Right Way
Self-promotion is one of the strongest skills found in successful individuals. Being able to self-promote has many advantages. It is vital to personal advancement and, if done well, can place you in top positions within your workplace.
Here are some ways to more effectively promote yourself without being self-obsessed.
- Self-awareness is important to successful self-promotion. It is about knowing your attitudes, values, behavior, beliefs, feelings, and other personality factors. Take some time for self-reflection to understand why you think and act as you do. Question any beliefs or behaviors that are not supporting the actions you know you need to take. If you are self-aware, you can promote in an intellectual manner.
- We all have stories to tell, so if you tell them, make sure they are interesting and provide value. Ensure that your stories are appropriate to the achievement. Donât embellish, but donât be self-deprecating, either.Â
- Deliver, and donât make empty promises. Do what you say you will. You deserve merit if any achievement is truly yours to claim. Focus on âshowingâ what you have done rather than âtellingâ what you will do. At work, it is easier to lead your team if your members see you fulfilling your responsibilities. Walk the talk so you can self-promote unashamedly.
- Show genuine appreciation and recognition if your efforts are not yours alone. There may have been individuals who contributed along the way. By showing genuine appreciation and gratitude to others, you will make them feel valuable too.
Self-promotion is not always easy, especially in the workplace, which is why it can feel uncomfortable to do. For some people, it is way outside of their comfort zone.Â
However, the right way of promoting yourself has many advantages and can be life-changing. Effective self-promotion has helped many individuals unlock their true potential, overcome their weaknesses, and stand out from the crowd.Â
How about you? Are you now ready to begin promoting your achievements as they deserve? I am always interested in learning more about your experiences and if you, too, can relate to feeling uncomfortable with self-promoting. In a time where even a confident person is deemed arrogant or narcissistic, I can understand how conflicting it can be to rightfully self-promote.
How are you managing and navigating this space? Share your thoughts⌠I cannot wait to hear from you.
One last thing…
Want to go deeper on this journey of self-awareness, building confidence, and understanding humility? Â Jump over to the She Builds…According To Her Faith podcast on Spotify, and catch the latest video on YouTube.
(Spotify) Reclaiming Our Dreams: Overcoming the Pitfall of Misguided Efforts
Grace and Grit: Balancing Confidence with Humility  (YouTube only)
